Dr. Lauren

There are moments in our minds that change everything: the instant you realize you’re spiraling, bracing, hiding, people-pleasing, or overexplaining. That tiny step back, which I call "zooming out," is more than just insight. It’s a shift in consciousness and your nervous system, working together to open a new way of operating.  Fascinatingly, the power of this experience is rooted not just in philosophy but also in neurology. When you observe your inner experience—your thoughts, urges,...

The Queer Women’s Courtship Problem  Let me tell you something I’ve seen hundreds of times in my office. A woman walks in glowing. She’s met someone. After only two weeks, it feels like she’s known her forever. They’re texting constantly, staying up late talking, seeing each other often, and already planning a weekend away. She’s already said, “I’ve never felt this way before.” I pause. Because I know what usually follows. I've spent over twenty years working with lesbians and queer women,...