About Dr. Lauren
Psychologist | Author | Educator | Soulful Guide for Inner Healing & Empowered Love
I’m Dr. Lauren Costine—a psychologist, author, and lifelong advocate for the emotional and relational healing of lesbians and queer women. For over 25 years, I’ve walked beside many people as they navigate heartbreak, relationship patterns, identity struggles, and the deep, soul-level desire to be fully seen and loved. But most importantly to me, I don’t just teach healing—I live it.
Like so many in our community, I’ve had to unlearn internalized shame, rebuild my relationship with love, and find my way back to the truth of who I am. Remove layers of my false self so I can claim my authentic self. My work is rooted not only in psychological science and clinical experience but also in decades of personal transformation and spiritual awakening. I believe the deepest healing happens when we walk the path together—from a place of authenticity, compassion, and shared humanity.
My approach blends depth psychology, queer-affirmative theory, trauma-informed coaching, the Eastern Wisdoms of Buddhism and Hinduism, and soulful inner work. I help queer folks break the cycles that keep them stuck and reconnect to their power, purpose, and truth.
My Work at a Glance
✨ Therapist & Relationship Coach
Helping queer women heal from heartbreak, navigate toxic dynamics, and build emotionally intelligent relationships.
✨ Author & Educator
Creator of Lesbian Love Addiction (and more books on the way), and founding faculty of the LGBTQ+ Specialization at Antioch University, along with LGBTQ-affirmative tracks in multiple treatment centers where I’ve helped shape the future of affirmative psychology.
✨ Speaker & Advocate
I speak globally on LGBTQ identity, emotional wellness, intimacy, and collective healing. From 2019 to 2022, I co-hosted the Consciousness Salon Podcast with Alana Roshay, where we explored healing, queerness, and awakening.
What I Believe
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Healing is both personal and political.
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Your queerness is not the problem—it’s the portal.
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Struggles aren't setbacks; they are the opportunity
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Inner work is the foundation for lasting love, secure relationships, and authentic joy
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You are already whole. My job is to help you remember.
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I show up to this work with humility, reverence, and fierce love for this community. It’s my honor to walk beside the women who are ready to break free from the old stories and step into a new chapter of self-worth, connection, and empowered love.
Thank you for being here. I’m so glad we’ve found each other.
With love and solidarity,
Dr. Lauren
My Approach To Change
I believe that healing happens in the presence of compassion, curiosity, and authentic connection. With over two decades of experience, I offer a deeply supportive space where you can feel safe to explore, reflect, and grow. My work integrates the mind, body, and spirit—drawing from depth psychology, queer theory, evidence-based tools, and a holistic understanding of your unique identity. I blend this with intuitive insight and a commitment to intersectionality, so your full experience is not just acknowledged, but honored. Whether you’re seeking one-on-one coaching, consulting for your organization, or inspiration from my public talks, I walk beside you with warmth, respect, compassion, and nonjudgment. We’ll work together to:
Heal relational wounds
Cultivate emotional resilience, build a stronger connection with your true self, and step into a life of greater joy, clarity, and freedom. Because I don’t believe in “fixing” you, I believe in helping you remember who you really are.