There’s a question I think about when working on my book or thinking about the meaning of life: How would you make decisions about your future if you actually knew you deserved a good life? While this question is gaining traction, it is not one many ask when they are too busy surviving, escaping and managing the complexities of life: coming out, looking for a relationship, grieving a relationship, navigating dating apps to find the one, searching for belonging, creating purpo

A Psychologist's Take on What It Really Means to Celebrate Yourself As a Lesbian or Queer Woman Jacklyn has been eagerly anticipating her Pride weekend since April. She is ready; her outfit is chosen, and the hottest spots to visit are all mapped out. Her friend’s group chat, called "dykes do June," has been buzzing for weeks. She loves Pride, genuinely and wholeheartedly. The music, the visibility, the feeling of moving through the world in a crowd of people who understand h

A Psychologist's Framework for Dating from Wholeness Instead of Hunger She walks into my office glowing. It's been three weeks. Maybe four. She's met someone, and it's different this time. They've been texting nonstop. They stayed up until 2 a.m. last Tuesday talking about their childhoods. She's already said the words: “I've never felt this way before – she really gets me.” And I take a breath. Because I know what's coming. It’s not that Sapphic romance shouldn’t be intense,

There are moments in our minds that change everything: the instant you realize you’re spiraling, bracing, hiding, people-pleasing, or overexplaining. That tiny step back, which I call "zooming out," is more than just insight. It’s a shift in consciousness and your nervous system, working together to open a new way of operating. Fascinatingly, the power of this experience is rooted not just in philosophy but also in neurology. When you observe your inner experience—your thoug

The Queer Women’s Courtship Problem Let me tell you something I’ve seen hundreds of times in my office. A woman walks in glowing. She’s met someone. After only two weeks, it feels like she’s known her forever. They’re texting constantly, staying up late talking, seeing each other often, and already planning a weekend away. She’s already said, “I’ve never felt this way before.” I pause. Because I know what usually follows. I've spent over twenty years working with lesbians an

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My first experience of shame came in the aftermath of my parents’ divorce at the age of eight. At the time we lived in Côte d’Ivoire, in...