Dr. Lauren

Understanding Your Worth There’s a question I often ponder while working on my book or reflecting on life: How would you make decisions about your future if you truly knew you deserved a good life? This question is gaining traction, yet many of us don’t ask it. We are often too busy surviving, escaping, and managing life’s complexities. Coming out, seeking a relationship, grieving a past love, navigating dating apps, searching for belonging, creating purpose, and even figuring out retirement...

A Psychologist's Take on What It Really Means to Celebrate Yourself As a Lesbian or Queer Woman Jacklyn has been eagerly anticipating her Pride weekend since April. She is ready; her outfit is chosen, and the hottest spots to visit are all mapped out. Her friend’s group chat, called "dykes do June," has been buzzing for weeks. She loves Pride, genuinely and wholeheartedly. The music, the visibility, the feeling of moving through the world in a crowd of people who understand her. Each year,...

A Psychologist's Framework for Dating from Wholeness Instead of Hunger She walks into my office glowing. It's been three weeks. Maybe four. She's met someone, and it's different this time. They've been texting nonstop. They stayed up until 2 a.m. last Tuesday talking about their childhoods. She's already said the words: “I've never felt this way before – she really gets me.” And I take a breath. Because I know what's coming. It’s not that Sapphic romance shouldn’t be intense, passionate, or...